I recently attended an Introvert's Meetup where we talk about what it is like to navigate various aspects of life with this particular "trait." At one point in this particular meeting we talked about the balance between alone-time and social engagements.
I shared the following quote by Horacio Jones, which a friend shared with me. It starts like this:
"I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over..."
Instead of writing a full post, I created a video sharing my reflections instead. Read More
In recent conversations with a couple of women clients, issues of age and future career dreams have come to the surface. I’ve been grappling with this myself, so I thought it worth exploring. The overriding fear/worry is that it’s “too late.” At first I regarded it as a primary issue for mid-to-late career women. (None of my men clients are talking about this anyway.) Then I remembered conversations with my son over the past couple of years - now in his early 30’s - in which he expressed concern that he’s not where he “should” be in his life or career. No doubt, the content of the concerns are different, but the fact that any of us are judging and potentially limiting ourselves due to arbitrary age markers is noteworthy. Read More
Clearly, life markers are alive and well in the collective conscious. My sense is that there was one generation where the prescription for a successful life might have matched the potential to fulfill these expectations:
It got my attention when, within a short period of time, several people apologized to me for “being late” in replying to my call, email or online inquiry. In none of these instances was I concerned about the “delay,” which span was anywhere from 7 hours to 3 days. So, I wondered, why were they? Ah yes, some smart business person decreed that to be seen as responsive one must reply to inquiries by the end of the business day, or within a 24-period. Within these guidelines, it matters not if you have the time, energy or even the interest. Read More
I did some research to see if I could find out who initiated this standard, but came up with nothing that clearly identified the premise, nor who started it. What I do know is that it has been a standard for at least 20 years. And, like all good standards, it’s worthy of pause questions. Is this true? Under what circumstances might this be true? And, what does it do to human beings?
Tis the season when we are first supposed to be merry, happy and celebrating, after which we expect ourselves to immediately jump into the new year, ready to launch our new programs, our goals already defined...in the middle of deep winter! That's a lot to expect of a human body, don't you think? Talk about a capacity load. I would like to offer you an alternative time table for setting goals and creating agendas for this coming year, one that gives you a little more space between holiday events and launching new initiatives.
What if I were to tell you that the true "energetic New Year" is on January 21st this coming year? Might that feel right, more natural, less rushed? Might it also explain why most New Year’s “resolutions” fail within a few days? Read More