Rather than Managing Stress - Allowing Ease

I'd like to claim the shift in context as mine, but it came out of a conversation with two other women. Though we all do different things to help people become more at ease in life, we do so from 3 different perspectives. For me, it's through business, for another through mindful nutrition and self-care practices, and for the other, through Acupuncture. We came together in a break out session at a business meeting where we were addressing sustainability issues in business. I suspect that we three showed up at the table discussion, "managing stress," as teachers and guides for others. Interestingly enough, we were the only 3 at the table so we talked amongst ourselves.

Once in a while we'd look at the tent card on our table to remind ourselves of our table topic. The acupuncturist mentioned the word "ease" to which I nodded yes! Ease! I love that word. When we later circled back to our tent card, I crossed out the word "stress" and replaced it with ease, and immediately changed the word "managing" to "allowing."

The difference in feeling between that hard core, take charge attitude towards "managing stress," is significantly different than the feeling associated with "allowing  ease." Can't you just feel the relaxation in your body, and the deepening breath when you say the words "allowing ease?"

What if it were as simple as that? What if the way to manage stress is to allow ease? If stress escalates when our expectations and desires do not unfold in a timely manner (on our schedule), then wouldn't it make sense to step back and allow?

  • Allowing says that what is happening in the moment is just fine.
  • It also says that there is nothing wrong with it, you or them.
  • Allowing ease says "I'll do what is in front of me now, without concerning myself with others things I might do."
  • Allowing ease says it's OK to slow down, to rush less and focus more.

I could probably list a few more examples of what Allowing Ease might give rise to, but I'll stop here and leave the rest to your imagination.

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