Question: "Can you help me with X?" Reply: "No, that won't work for me."
It's such a simple, straight forward reply, yet most people experience extreme anxiety even when it's really the best response. To the logical mind, such a statement is a no-brainer. But the emotional mind, the one that often calls the shots, seems to say that it's better to sublimate your personal interests than to risk disappointing someone else.
Just a few days ago, a colleague told me that he had decided to stop engaging with a professional mastermind group that he'd been participating with for about 5 months. When he informed the group leader of his plans to discontinue, the leader asked him to attend one last time so he could tell people that he was leaving and why.Read More